Starting at 12:30, President David led the Pledge of Allegiance and introduced Rich Madison with the Words of Inspiration.  Rich recited a poem and the main point of the poem was that we should be thankful for both good and bad things. President David asked the Rotarians to take a moment of silence for the Paris Victims, as well as informing us that he has sent condolences from our club to our sister club, Paris Académies.
 
Secretary Mike Carmichael introduced visiting Rotarians and guests of Rotarians.
Name
Host  or Home Club
Work
Anita Seto      
Michael Harper Jr.
General Manager, Dennis Brown Shaolin Wu- Shu Training Center
Cristiana Valentwi Katso
Erminia Scarcella
HR Consultant
Corrado Cantatore
Erminia Scarcella
President & CEO, Dice International Security
Kevin Mathees
Rotary Global Grant Scholar, David Klaus
SAIS Johns Hopkins
Gary Olsem
Alicia Rule
Section Chief, NIH
Edmund Breitling
Ken Brown
Campus Director, Strayer (Jack Welch Management Institute)
George McArdle
Abrahem Helal
Program Examiner, OMB
Oussama Mezoui
Andrew Koval
VP Programs, UMR
Karen Gardner
Alexander Kravetz & Shaun English
Executive Director, Reading Partners
Katrina Romain
Lisa Mc Curdy
True Fitness
Dennis Brown
Michael Harper Jr.
Dennis Brown Shaolin Wu- Shu Training Center
Doug Duncan
Rynthia Rost
Leadership Greater Washington
Carmen Lomellin
Clara Montanez
Ambassador, Lomellin Global Partners
Paul Singh
Rotary Club of Chandi Garh India
Self-employed  Comedian
Peter Maslow
Lisa Mc Curdy
Representative, Paychex
 
Jim presented the Club with a flag from the Rockville Rotary.
 
Sergeant-at-Arms Ken Kimbrough recognized the Rotarian celebrating a birthday this week:
  • Terrance Lovelady- November 14th. Terrance is a new member sponsored by Sam Hancock. His classification is Banking Wealth Management.
  • Cy Ansary - November 20th.  He is been a member since January 1, 1980 sponsored by Carl Jones. Cy’s classification is investment capital management.
     
Raven Canty provided a recap with a video of the Career Fair.
 
President David announced that there is a club board meeting (one of the red badge requirements) tomorrow at noon. Check the website for details and let Gretchen know if you will be attending.
 
President David presented red badges to Sharla Thomas and Robert Meins.
 
Erminia Scarcella introduced speaker James Hollis a Jungian analyst in private practice whose area of expertise is the psychology of men.
 
Dr. Hollis opened by speaking about the deep reluctance and anxiety he had about speaking on the subject of men’s issues. He attributed these feelings to the fact that men’s issues are secret. This realization led him to write his book Under Saturn's Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men. He explained that secrets are the point of entry into the topic since men’s lives are organized around secrets. He said he would share some of the secrets and make them less secret.
 
He spoke about his safe childhood in Springfield, Illinois, but how his parents had to work very hard to keep the family afloat and how he knew that there were people going off to war and not coming back. He said he was raised into a culture of work, war, and worry. He wondered how he would learn to be a man in the world. His most important question that he hoped someone would answer for him was how to deal with his fear. He said he was still waiting for these instructions!
 
He looked to the ancient rites of passage. Every traditional culture has certain rituals to move boys into being men to go out into the world. The first rites of passage involved separation. Secondly there was a ceremony of death, representing the dying of the child. Third, a ceremony of rebirth of the new adult being. Fourth there were teachings at three levels: cosmic – where do we come from and where are going, tools to function in your culture, and the rights, duties and policies of the particular culture. He said that today these things are not taught anymore. The fifth rite was an ordeal where the youth had to learn self-reliance and find a way through the difficulty and fear. The sixth rite was reentry into the culture as an adult.
 
Dr. Hollis spoke about the fact that we do not go through these rites anymore so there is a seamless movement from child into adult, but the needs of the child have not been met and people have not been prepared to be an adult. He realized that this had a lot to do with the role of the secrets.
 
The first secret had to do with restrictive gender expectations and how women’s roles have changed in society. Everyone has to be allowed to do what their own destiny calls them to do. The second secret is that men’s lives are governed by fear. He asked what this makes men do and what does it keep men from doing. The third secret is that most men are taught to be silent in order to not expose their fear. Men are ridiculed for exposing any vulnerability or fear. The fourth secret is that feminine power is innate in men, but they need to distance themselves from it. He used the macho culture in Texas as an example of this. The fifth secret is that every man must leave his mother, literally and figuratively. The sixth secret is that men are violent because their souls have been violated. The seventh secret is that every man has a deep longing for a father, both a personal father and tribal father. The eighth secret is that men have to learn to heal themselves and if they do not learn to heal themselves they cannot heal their relationships with other people.
 
Dr. Hollis then talked about the anima which is Latin for soul. When people are estranged from their own soul psychopathology occurs and is that expression of the suffering of the soul. The violence we see all around us today is an example of this soul anxiety expressing itself.
 
He spoke about “fixities” when he was a child: that gender roles, identifications, racial and ethnic roles, social economic class roles, sexual identification and practices were all fixed. It was a closed world, but it gave people clarity about what they were and were not supposed to do. In the past 25 years these “fixities” have been removed, which has given people freedom, but lots of anxieties since the roles are no longer defined.
 
He said he was grateful that the Rotary society is devoted to encouraging the youth of America
a sense of personal responsibility and values. He said that his practice has changed over the years to being more men than women coming to see him. All men are defined by the pursuit of success, and that they are either winners or losers and, if you talk to them long enough, all men feel like losers, which produces a great deal of anxiety.  But the anxiety can lead us to find what empowers us and serve our own soul. People who come to see him are very high functioning in society, but lack the permission to follow what their soul dictates. He quoted “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parent.”
 
President David presented James Hollis with a certificate indicating the club plants trees in honor of our speakers. 
 
President David announced our next program Wednesday November 25 will feature Suzanne Funk, who is Director of the Geneva Day School in Potomac, MD.
 
He thanked Stu Shalloway for staffing the Hospitality Desk and Awad Morgan for serving as Greeter of the day and writing the Meeting in Review.
 
The meeting adjourned at 1:30pm.